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Sudbury, MA 01776
Tuesday, Oct. 24, 2017
Contact: John Guilfoil
Sudbury Lincoln CRANE Newsletter
FEATURED TOPIC: HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, which serves as a good opportunity to talk to children about healthy dating relationships and how to recognize potentially dangerous habits. It is also important for parents and guardians to recognize that their own relationship habits can have a strong influence on children.
Dating violence does not just affect adults — people of all ages and backgrounds have experienced dating violence. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, among high school students who dated, 21 percent of females and 10 percent of males experienced physical and/or sexual dating violence. Furthermore, among adult victims of rape, physical violence and/or stalking by an intimate partner, 22 percent of women and 15 percent of men first experienced some form of partner violence between 11 and 17 years of age.
Teen dating violence is defined as the physical, sexual, psychological, or emotional violence within a dating relationship, including stalking. The abuse can happen in person or electronically and could occur between a current or former dating partner.
Dating violence can have serious short-term and long-term effects — many teens who have experienced dating violence do not report it because they are afraid to tell friends and family. This makes it extremely important for parents and guardians to discuss what it means to be in a healthy relationship and when they should talk to an adult.
In a healthy relationship:
• Your partner respects you and your individuality.
• You both feel safe being open and honest.
• Your partner supports you and your choices, even when they disagree with you.
• Both of you have equal say and respected boundaries.
• Your partner understands that you need to study or hang out with friends or family.
• You can communicate your feelings without being afraid of negative consequences.
• Checks your cellphone or email without your permission
• Constantly puts you down
• Exhibits extreme jealousy or insecurity
• Exhibits an explosive temper
• Isolates you from family or friends
• Makes false accusations
• Exhibits mood swings
• Physically hurts you in any way
• Is possessive
• Tells you what to do
Click here for the Teen Brochure for Healthy Relationships from the Domestic Violence Services Network.
Sudbury Lincoln CRANE would like to remind residents about the resources available to the community:
Domestic Violence Services Network
National Teen Dating Violence Helpline
Break the Cycle
Futures Without Violence
The National Child Traumatic Stress Network
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Light in the Darkness Candlelight Vigil
Thursday, Oct. 26 at 6:30 p.m. @ Lincoln Sudbury Regional High School
Wings for Autism
Saturday, Nov. 4 at 9 a.m. @ Logan Airport, Terminal E
“If Only” Film Screening
Tuesday, Nov. 7 at 6:30 p.m. @ Lincoln Sudbury Regional High School
Dr. Karen Levine’s Presentation on Anxiety
Wednesday, Nov. 8 at 7 p.m. @ Curtis Middle School in the Library
William James College INTERFACE Referral Service is a mental health and wellness referral line available to families in the Sudbury and Lincoln Communities as well as Boston families with children in the Sudbury and Lincoln schools. This free and confidential service is available to residents of all ages in member towns.
Callers will be asked to describe their need and provide insurance, appointment time and location preferences. INTERFACE staff will then use their extensive database to find a licensed therapist or provider match with the appropriate specialization. They are able to make referrals in the Sudbury, Lincoln and Boston areas. INTERFACE is available Monday-Friday from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. at 888-244-6843 (toll free).
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